We spend so much of our lives believing we have to fix ourselves. That we need to polish away the quirks, smooth over the rough edges, and finally “get it together” before we’re worthy. But here’s the truth I wish more of us heard sooner:  You don’t need to be perfect. You need to be human. And being human means being gloriously, stubbornly, beautifully imperfect. 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐓𝐫𝐚𝐩 𝐨𝐟 “𝐄𝐧𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡” There was a time when I used to try to live up to what I thought   Ideal   was. That’s when I...

Photo by Tony Beals A story is told of a man who was trying to lead his horse into a city. When he reached the city gate, the horse suddenly stopped and refused to move. The man tried everything he could think of (pushing, pulling, shouting, pleading, even coaxing), but the horse wouldn’t budge an inch. After watching the man struggle for quite some time, a young boy approached and asked if he could try. The man, exhausted and frustrated, agreed. The boy calmly walked over to the horse,...

Masking is one of the most exhausting parts of living with ADHD (and other forms of neurodivergence). On the surface, it looks like we’re “functioning.” Underneath, it feels like running a marathon in a costume that doesn’t fit. 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗙𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗙𝗮𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗠𝗮𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴 Masking isn’t just one thing, it shifts depending on where we are: 𝗖𝗼𝘀𝘁𝘂𝗺𝗲 𝗺𝗮𝘀𝗸𝗶𝗻𝗴  — Altering your physical appearance or style to blend in. Clothes, hair, accessories… like putting on an outfit that “fits...